The most important thing you can do when your heart is broken is feel it all. Feel all the feelings, and feel them deeply. Don’t hide from them. Don’t tell yourself you’ve cried too much. Don’t busy yourself. Don’t let your mind convince you to avoid it. Just sit with your pain, and let yourself feel it all. The only way to the other side of pain, the place where I’m living now, is to walk through it. You can’t skip around it, dig a hole under it, or build a bridge to go over it. You have to bare witness and be present to everything that is arising. And that is all you have to do.

You don’t have to analyze it, manipulate it, or deny it. You simply have to accept it for what it is. And I know that "simply" or "just" are flippant words for this work.